You can’t build many relationships at once. It’s wrong to build many relationships at once. Those who do are making mistakes. You can’t make many friends at once. Those who do are making mistakes. If you build relationships with many people at once, no one relationship can be given importance. If you build many friends at once, no one becomes a real friend. No one is given importance. Since the advent of social media, the importance of human relationships has decreased, friendship has lost its importance.
No relationship is deepening. Every relationship has become loose. Even the relationships that were once deep have lost their importance. Again, before a relationship is formed, it is drowning in the crowd of many others. Known people are disappearing due to the attraction of unseen people. People are unable to decide what to do. Where to go. Who to go to. Who to keep close, who to push away. Everything has become so open that it has become difficult to protect their reputation. People are confused by the loose glare. People are defeated.
The familiar world of the house is also gradually moving away from the unfamiliar world outside. Even at home, people are becoming lonely, isolated. Everyone is creating their own world. Children are busy with their own world, wives or husbands want to be immersed in their own world. Although there is nothing wrong with this on the surface, the strong bond of family, the habit of being together, sitting at the same table, has become much weaker. People are gradually becoming lonely.
The desire to connect with people, the feeling of creating a deep relationship, has been lost. I myself was once very much immersed in social media. I thought I needed many friends, relationships with many people. I don’t know why I felt that way. But now I feel that my idea was wrong. I was chasing after a penny. Enough time has been wasted.
I am now trying to redeem myself. The impressive or virtual glitter of social media no longer attracts me like before. I am trying to stay away from wrong relationships, wrong friendships or wrong people. In doing all this, I have distanced myself from my true friends, tested friends, and relatives. They have also distanced me. However, through social media, I have found some extraordinary people as friends. So it is not all meaningless. So I am satisfied with what I have found. I do not want to test many people.
I have drifted away from those with whom I once sat down, those who were once my companions in joy and sorrow, those with whom I shared a cigarette, a shirt, a plate, a bed, a cup of tea, those with whom I held my chest, and listened to my heartbeat. My disconnection is to blame for this, social media is to blame. Now I long to return to my roots.
Toronto, Canada
