Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition. It is not a genetic disease, however, growing up environment is an important factor in the development of this disease. When parents or relatives praise children’s self-confidence too much during childhood, on the other hand, they do not give any praise to qualities like compassion or sympathy for others, then gradually people’s mentality changes and eventually it can take the form of this disease. They may not be bad as people. So in this case it goes without saying that it is not the patient but his disease that is the problem. There is no need to tell your child as a child, ‘You are the best’/ ‘You are the only one’,/ ‘Everything is yours’, etc. Instead, tell them that, ‘You can do it if you try’, / ‘Those who try like you can do it,’ etc. Although it sounds bad, it is true that many children get such wrong education from their parents or other family members, such as grandparents, grandparents, and later they admit this disease without their knowledge. Teach them compassion. Family education on how to empathize with others, how to comfort them, how to empathize when someone else is lost, helpless, is very important. This difference can be seen in the example below. Rony loves to play chess. One day when Ronnie played chess with Robin, the winning Robin said, ‘You’re a loser.’ This is the difference between Ronnie and Robin’s family education. When a friend loses because this robin doesn’t learn compassion from the family, it hurts a little more to call him a ‘loser’. And on the other hand, after Emily lost, so that Emily does not suffer, or the suffering is reduced, so Rani consoled her by saying ‘good game’. Which friend do you love more? The friend who will sympathize with you in your suffering or loss, try to make you feel better, or comfort him? Or who will call others ‘loser’ if he wins? Think about it, and teach the children of your family that way from childhood.
Although this disease is common in the society, in most cases, it is seen that the affected person does not understand that it is a disease or a mental problem. People suffering from this disease unnecessarily consider themselves terribly important, they cannot feel the importance or real feelings of others. They often think only of their own importance. They crave a lot of attention. They don’t pay much attention to others, but if others don’t pay attention to them, Tulkalam sits down. In many cases, such narcissistic people speak freely in front of others without stopping, without even thinking about what the other person might have to say. They want everyone to praise only them, sometimes they think they deserve all the praise even if they don’t do anything worthy of praise. It is a very complex mental problem, it becomes more complicated in some cases because the person does not realize that he is going through this mental problem. And because they usually lead normal lives, performing other social functions, they are not, or are not, directly identified as mentally unbalanced. The main problem is that they are so busy with their own feelings that they don’t have time to think about how others feel about their behavior or actions.
Some narcissistic traits can rarely occur in normal people, but when it causes emotional problems, it is called narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD for short. The following symptoms are usually considered by experienced psychologists in diagnosing NPD.
1. Taking yourself too seriously.
2. Staying with only name-age-fame-nobility-joke all the time.
3. possessive
4. Only wants to see or keep himself next to people with name-age-fame-nobility.
5. Opportunist
6. Stubborn, stubborn
7. Not homophobic at all
8. They always look for praise
9. He is very jealous.
According to Zachary Rosenthal (Ph.D.), a clinical psychologist at Duke Health, if someone has at least five of these symptoms, they should be considered dangerously ill. It’s normal for people to have one or two traits, such as being jealous or stubborn, but if any five traits are present, seek treatment soon.
Dr. Rosenthal also said that among these patients, the number of people who voluntarily seek treatment is very low. In many cases, doctors identify the disease by seeing these characteristics in patients who come for treatment of other diseases. Or it can be seen that they come for treatment under the pressure of family or friends, but they themselves do not understand or believe that they need treatment. It is often seen that patients come to the clinic for treatment of depression or anxiety without knowing about the disease. Experienced therapists can then ask some questions, assess and diagnose the disease. When dealing with such people, remember very carefully, at any stage of the conversation, if you see any trigger, the topic must be ended there, it cannot be allowed to continue. Many times they are seen saying, ‘It happened because of you,’ or ‘It was bound to happen because of you’, etc. They are usually masters of blaming others.
It is an extremely problematic mental disorder that progresses over time to such an extent that it cannot be cured. However, through medication and therapy, the patient can be made aware of his disease by explaining and training. Before changing the characteristics that exist, therefore, the therapist establishes a positive relationship with the patient, reaches a place of trust, then trains them to use alternatives in their place, in an effort to eliminate the offending symptoms one by one. But the key to treating this disorder is to teach the patient what behavioral defects he has, why they are objectionable, and how to change them. And besides, since it is not a curable disease, it is a disease that develops gradually from childhood, so they usually do not have a very sweet relationship with anyone. People have to be very careful in getting involved with these self-centered people, otherwise the partner’s life can also be upset. And for partners, set a hard boundary and only engage in a relationship with such a narcissist.
Another thing to say about narcissists is that they are usually ‘fans of the hard, fans of the soft’. If someone is a little soft-spoken, or doesn’t say ‘no’ to their face, they are more interested in having a relationship with them. On the other hand, if you treat them harshly from the start, saying ‘no’ firmly every time, they will lose interest in you, and not so much engage, lose attraction to you.
Finally, the root cause of this disease is parenting or growing up in childhood. Two things are very important to remember when it comes to parenting. The child should not be told that only he is the best, nor should he be told that nothing is possible for him. You may have feelings for the baby, and that’s normal. But none of the above two methods can be adopted in extreme emotions. As you will reward the child for good work, give a little criticism and encourage him to do better, so that your child becomes very flexible, easy-going and humble from childhood. Also, trauma, betrayal, shaming, insulting, using bad language, constantly criticizing, or praising everything, whether good or bad, are not good for a child’s mental health, and these things are actually the cause of NPD. responsible behind They never make lasting friends. As long as someone is their friend, as long as they say ‘yes’ to everything they say, the moment these NPD sufferers stop accepting everything, the friendship ends there.
Scarborough, Canada
