Over the past few years, the number of people devoid of justice, ethics, and morality has been increasing. It seems that having a sense of shame or modesty no longer fits into the modern world.
Very few people can truly change themselves because, as humans, making mistakes is natural. A sane person would never claim to be a saint. Humans are not angels; they can be misled by Satan. However, if they recognize their mistakes and feel genuine remorse, they are encouraged to repent. Those who deliberately commit wrongdoings or stubbornly persist in their mistakes do not seek guidance. Some people do not even acknowledge their own wrongdoing, and unfortunately, their numbers are growing in families and society.
Most people, after reaching a certain age, end up following the same old path, no matter how much they once spoke about right and wrong. Whether consciously or unconsciously, both men and women tend to return to their old ways. We often believe we are right, and for the sake of our own interests, we refuse to change ourselves. Even in this era, some people’s behaviors and attitudes remain unchanged.
First and foremost, parents need to understand their responsibilities because children learn by observing them. If mothers instill the wrong values in their children, their partners and other family members suffer. Why do they do this? Is it due to insecurity or fear of losing control? While previously rare, many women today are also harboring complex and manipulative behaviors.
I never want my son to grow up believing that women must do everything alone, that all household responsibilities fall solely on women. If, as a mother, I instill such wrong values in him, what answer will I give to Allah when I am questioned about it? Who else will teach him the importance of relationships and respect for others if not me? A man has significant responsibilities, yet in our country, mothers often overlook this fact.
Professions and status are often prioritized to the extent that other essential values are ignored. I want my son to understand the importance of family and to respect the women around him, but without bias—because that would be unjust. He must be accountable for his actions, and as his mother, it is my duty to remind him of this repeatedly.
Some women, after marriage, try to control their husbands and isolate them from others. On the other hand, some mothers and sisters control men for their own interests, leading to injustices against their wives. I have seen many such cases. Both sides exhibit toxic mindsets. People have different expectations at different stages of life—if they cannot accept this, they end up ruining others’ lives.
Some women treat their husbands as mere ATM cards, emotionally blackmailing them for their own benefit, stooping to disgraceful levels of selfishness. They have no fear of being accountable to Allah. They manipulate and deceive, yet claim to be righteous. Even when elders in the husband’s family suffer due to such daughters-in-law, they often remain silent.
It is not always just the mother-in-law and sisters-in-law who are greedy. Some women are so deceitful that they build layers upon layers of lies without any sense of shame. For them, worldly gains matter more than anything else. They may say that angels record their deeds and that Allah sees everything, but their actions suggest otherwise.
I do not want my daughter to be among such deceitful, hypocritical people. I want her to be outspoken, but if she ever joins those who deprive others of their rights, I will not stand by her side. Injustice is injustice, regardless of who commits it. Whether my own child, parent, or anyone else commits wrongdoing, it will not become just. Even if I lose everything, I must stand up against injustice.
Both my son and daughter should learn to respect the people around them. They must value all professions and recognize that no work is small or insignificant. Social status and wealth are not the ultimate measures of worth. As a mother, I never want to see my children among the greedy. I want them to develop a balance between emotions and conscience and to be responsible individuals.
I hope they grow into extraordinary individuals—not just as partners, spouses, or parents, but as good human beings.
As a mother, I can instill a sense of right and wrong in my children, but I cannot claim that they will always be perfect or good. Likewise, they cannot claim that their mother is free from mistakes. Being a mother does not mean being infallible. Many mothers, in their desire to see their children succeed, wrongfully mistreat other people’s children, which is why sighs of sorrow linger in the air.
Even if injustice is cloaked in maternal love, it remains injustice. Even if wrong is done in the name of love, it is still wrong.
In our country, these issues are often ignored, which is why, instead of real change, people end up following the same old patterns as they age. No teacher is greater than a mother—this must be understood. Motherly love is one thing, but teaching and instilling wrong values is another.
Those who spend lavishly on Eid shopping and then proudly give media interviews—can they truly say how much struggle went into earning that money? Do they ever wonder if their wishes are being fulfilled at the cost of deceiving or exploiting others?
Such behaviors reflect the family values they have been taught, but many people fail to realize this. This is why moral decline is becoming more visible.
Mothers can pray for their children and seek Allah’s help, but they can never be certain that their children will never commit wrongdoings. Similarly, if a child blindly believes that their mother can never be wrong, that too is a mistake.
A lack of moral consciousness exists within all of us because we are all human. Families are the greatest educational institutions, and this is what should be emphasized. Simply showering children with affection is not enough; they must be taught about conscience, morality, and emotions. Sometimes, being strict is necessary. This is why parenting is such an important matter.
More important than professional achievements or social status is raising children with good values so that they can be remembered in prayers even after our passing.
There is no shortage of highly educated individuals who lack humanity.
I urge every mother to raise their children with good morals, a sense of humanity, and as responsible citizens. If they grow up to be good people, they will earn the prayers of others as well.
As a mother, my greatest wish is to be grateful that my children have turned out to be good human beings. I want to leave this world with peace of mind, knowing that the lessons I imparted to them were not in vain.
Above all, Allah knows what is in everyone’s hearts.
